Updated: Mar 9
By Sara Minges, M.S., Wellness Coach
Diet of Denial
I never understood
the appeal of denial diets,
even as my sisters rushed
to fill their shopping carts
with the latest food fad.
I prefer the "goddess gorge",
to denying my carb cravings.
Maybe because I'm too good,
at breaking the rules and finding loopholes.
(C) Sara Minges 2010, Whisky Sweet, Black Heart Press, 2021
Daisy's Diet Disaster
There's a light burning in the kitchen, an egg frying in the pan,
a flame flaming on the stove, some sushi from Japan.
There's a light burning in the bedroom,
a TV shining bright;
since I have no date,
I just lick the plate.
Funny how the moon is made of cheese
and when I look in the mirror,
I see Dom Deluise.
Bananas and cream are my latest passion;
it's absurd to carry on in this faship.
I look out my window to see the stars. Oh heavens!
I only see Snicker's Bars.
-Stacey Handler, author of The Body Burden: Living in the Shadow of Barbie
(a.k.a. Granddaughter of Barbie's creator)
My Fight With Barbie
Barbie and I had a fight last night.
She is tired of being silent,
but thinks admiration ain't so bad.
Me, I am tired of being compared
to her too perfect, hourglass figure
impossible to replicate.
So I fall short, where she soars.
Still, I think I prefer to keep my voice.
Instead of being plastic, silenced.
-Sara Minges, author of Naked Toes (Chameleon Press, 2018)
Diets Are Dangerous To Your Health
For decades, we have been brainwashed by popular media to believe we must sacrifice our happiness and health in the name of beauty, a necessary sacrifice in order to be worthy of love, connection and belonging.
We are taught to rely on the validation of others in order to feel beautiful in order to meet our ideal mate or experience life success. Thousands of dollars are spent each year on skin care, makeup, manis and pedis, hair cuts and blowouts. Too many times these beauty treatments and enhancements are are used to impress others instead of practicing self care and loving our bodies.
Women often rush out to buy the latest dieting book, believing this time, this diet will give us the results they want. They often get caught up in the excitement and possibility of having the body they want, without thinking about what they are willing to give up in order to get the results they want. While there are some medical conditions that cause weight gain and bloating, many people become overweight over time because they eat when emotional or use food to compensate for feelings of loneliness and unworthiness. Everything always seems better with chocolate, right?
I've Never Been On A Diet
You might be wondering why I'm writing a blog about dieting when I've never been on one before. Like many women, I've struggled with belly fat, bloating, inflammation and not liking how my clothes fit.
I've never been on a diet because I love food and the thought of no more pasta or carbs feels like cruel and unusual punishment. I've also never agreed with the idea that carbs ar bad. I've also lost weight while eating as many carbs as I want. In addition, I've seen too many of my female clients, family members, friends and colleagues sacrifice their emotional well-being and physical health in the name of dieting.
Here are some of the things they have told me over the years:
" I feel awful but I lost 8 lbs".
"I need to starve myself to fit into my prom/wedding dress".
"I only have to deprive myself of the things I love to eat for two weeks".
"I can't eat that, it has too many carbs".
"I'm hungry all the time but people keep complimenting me on my weight loss".
"As soon as I stopped my diet, I gained the weight back and then some".
"I can't seem to lose my belly fat. I've tried everything."